Be The Change
"If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature so does the attitude of the world change towards him... We need not wait to see what others do." - Mahatma Gandhi
The quote above is perhaps the closest to the words often attributed to Gandhi,"Be the change you wish to see in the world;" apparently a much-catchier version that fits well on a magnet, as sorted out by The New York Times. Either way, the sentiment works as a practical thing.
The counterfear idea is getting through what scares us... so that we really can do some good in the world. One way we make progress is when each one of us digs in. For a surprising film reference to how this might work, check out The LEGO Movie in its entirety.
And speaking of The LEGO Movie [spoiler alert], one of the major massive keys to getting through this whole transformational moment in time will be everyone being the change in their very own way. We will each need to bring our own unique thing as change unfolds all around us at a rapid rate of speed. We can and will be a part of that. Figuring out how to be that change is a really good reason to get coaching - to help you figure out what the unique things are that you bring to this moment. And - they'll change and evolve, as the pandemic and our responses to it evolve.
As this transformational time unfolds, we each have the opportunity to influence it in our own corners and spheres of influence. The more of us who seek to be universe-denters while the transformation is happening, the more we can shape how we get through it, and what comes next.
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"It's the chance of life, get ready, set, fly high.
Above the fear of your mind, go for it.
It's hit or miss, too late for you to quit.
You gotta show 'em how bad you really want this, so...
Live your dreams, it's not as hard as it may seem.
You gotta work to get the green, on your hopes you must lean
From your fears, you have to wean yourself.
It's all or nothing, give your everything...
...Are what you believe, you got to bring the dreams.
Set the pace, competitions take the lead.
This is it, all eyes on you.
So stay on point and prove,
that you deserve whats long overdue...
...My heart is still recovering,
From the heartbreak of another kind,
I'm still drying my tears.
Getting over my own fears in my life.
So I wanna make sure this time that I'm strong enough,
To give it my all...
...So you gotta live your dreams,
So don't you be afraid.
Just set the pace, and take the lead,
It's your time to shine.
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The "Top Gun" movie anthem, by Harold Faltermeyer and Steve Stevens.
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Country. "Where the sidewalk ends and the road begins / We said goodbye on a cold dark night / I'm not afraid to go you bet I'm not / Where the side walk ends, you left a lot." Lyrics here.
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